Children need to be loved and reassured of this love often. They are constantly learning and growing and the primary responsibility for their spiritual growth and development rests on their parents. Owning the fact that you are not a perfect parent in front of your children actually helps them to see how much you love God, and them.
The pressure to be the perfect parent today is unreal. Everywhere we go the world is watching how we handle bad behavior, if we are making our kids happy, and if we are doing it the right way. The world is constantly changing the recommendation of how we should parent the right way; but, as a Christian, you have the perfect parent to look to and the realization that you will never be perfect. Rest easy though, mama, because while you are responsible to show them how a Christian wife and mother should live, you are not the Holy Spirit and you are not ultimately responsible for their salvation. God is at work through your faithfulness, but He is also at work in your moments of wrong response.
There will be days when we respond wrongly to our children; times when we are harsh in tone or quick to judge a situation without waiting to hear their explanations. At those times you have been given the gift and the opportunity to be able to show your children what sincere repentance and the restoration of a relationship should look like!
Instead of setting a worldly example of giving excuses for your wrong action or behavior, go to your children and apologize, pray with them, and come to a place of reconciliation together. For our children to see that we are being sanctified, and not pious saints out of their reach, brings them a glimpse of what the Christian life really looks like. We are setting them up to be more than just productive members of society, but also, understanding members of the body of believers.
Our children are only with us a few years before they are grown and we must release them on their own authority to live in the world. It is our responsibility to show them how to live in the world without being of the world. Prayerfully we will focus on more than just the basic life skills, but will continually point them back to Jesus. Let it start with being willing to show our children we know we are not perfect and pointing them to the only One who is.
Let’s look for ways we can help our children grow this week by helping them see us turn to Jesus in our own imperfect moments.
I'm Rebecca, a Christian, wife, and mother of three. I lived wrong for a long time, got pretty well slapped with the reality of how sanctifying marriage and motherhood are, and now I am hoping to help others to hold on to Jesus in all the hard parts of life.