I wanted to post about being lazy last week. However, I
could not get a post written that I actually felt was worth putting up. Every
time I would get words out, I knew the Scripture I was quoting was appropriate
to what I was writing; but, I just could not make it translate in a way that
After a talk with a friend, a sermon that wasn’t even directly addressing laziness, and my husband making a comment he didn’t realize would be important to me I needed to do some praying. None of these people realized at the time that they were speaking to something in my life that I did not want to recognize. Why? Because I had not yet admitted to myself that laziness was something I was struggling with! Not that I am not usually doing something, but I am not always doing something productive or even something that is good.
She rises while it is still night and provides food for her household …She watches over the activities of her household and is never idle.
Proverbs 31:15;27 HCSB
In Proverbs we see the picture of the perfect Christian woman. One of the attributes we’re to desire is to be hardworking and actively seeking after the Kingdom of God in all areas of our life. When I sat down and had a hard look at my life I did not see someone who could be characterized by “waking while it is yet night” or “never idle.” That is pretty disturbing, mostly because it means I am not honoring God in this area of my life, but also because of who sees this area of my life most. My family, including my husband and young children.
In this season of life my husband does not have normal business hour work, and while it is one thing to try to adjust a bit, it is another for me to try to do it all and so not do anything well. I cannot both “rise while it is yet night” and stay up for several hours after my husband gets home from work.
How is this lazy? Because rather than examining my schedule to see how I can both be available and supportive to my husband and honoring God with my time, I just keep trying to do it all. These repeated attempts to do it all have left me tired, easily aggravated, and prone to idleness as I find that I just cannot keep up. When I am worn down from trying to do it all myself, I am not resting in God’s grace and peace, and I am not honoring Him. I am allowing myself to have a lazy heart instead of one that is seeking after God.
But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things will be provided for you.
Matthew 6:33 HCSB
God already knows what you need, and He has the power to provide it. Seek Him.
“Preparing food for her household” is an important practice. It looks a little different for each family: some of us find ourselves in the kitchen often making meals from scratch, some are in the kitchen making meals from boxes, and some are on the phone or in the drive-thru; but, all of us are making sure our families are fed. Where our hearts are in this process determines if we are being lazy or loving. I can be in the kitchen making an elaborate meal and still have a lazy heart toward my family if instead of making sure their needs are met I am making sure that my ego is stoked. Though I am obviously physically busy, I may be avoiding giving emotional support to a child or any kind of help to anyone in the home. Our hearts reveal if we are caring for our household out of love and a desire to honor God, or being physically busy but spiritually lazy.
When time in God’s Word has been demoted to when I fit it in instead of a first thing in the morning priority, I am living with a lazy heart.
On the other side, I don’t think we should be content to have prepared breakfast, lunch, and dinner, but never cracked open the Bible with our family. At one point we tried to read from Proverbs every morning. But, isn’t that sentence telling in how we took our Bible reading? We “tried” to read Proverbs every morning. We did not make it the priority.
Our mornings have been taken over by chores, getting out the door on time for different programs, and starting school on time recently. It is not wrong to put every good effort into maintaining our home, or to arrive on time for something we have committed to, and we all can agree that a good education is important for our children; but, if it comes at the expense of spending time with God then we need to examine how busy our lives are and where our real priority should be.
Do not be lazy onto the Lord. Work as unto the Lord. Get up even ten minutes earlier than you usually do and sit down to fellowship with God in His Word before your day begins. Watch yourself for idleness creeping in and fight it off with intentional effort to be sure you are honoring God with your time.
A few verses to hold onto as you engage in struggling against laziness:
As a personal aside, I do not believe “rises while it is yet night” is a command for every woman to be up at 5 am. I believe the principle behind it is to make sure we are honoring God when we rise, not necessarily to be up at dawn.
I'm Rebecca, a Christian, wife, and mother of three. I lived wrong for a long time, got pretty well slapped with the reality of how sanctifying marriage and motherhood are, and now I am hoping to help others to hold on to Jesus in all the hard parts of life.