“So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” Matthew 19:6
Often I will talk about when marriages are hard. The truth is that this can, and will, look different for everyone.
For some hard is simply living with another sinner and having to love and respect them no matter what; for others, hard is being talked to and treated unkindly, living in an unequally yoked marriage, or even feeling the pain of adultery. The point is, we all have our personal definition of hard; but, no matter what trial someone else is going through, it does not strengthen or diminish what is hard for your marriage. All marriages are sanctifying relationships and the hard parts are all for our good in the end if we love God and stay faithful to His purpose.
I also want to point out that holding on through the hard is neverstaying through physical abuse. If there is abuse happening, go and get safe. Personally, I believe God can heal the wounds of this as well, but I do not believe we are called to stay and be abused. If there is abuse report it; if you feel you cannot do so then go to someone you trust and have them help you report it, but get away and stay away for you and your children’s safety. Pray for your husband from afar and Lord willing he will be saved, but please, do not stay and be abused.
I created Wife Holding On to encourage women in the hard parts of marriage to not give up but to hold tightly to God and trust that He is working to sanctify us and help us to grow in grace through it. This is not a place to complain about husbands or to disrespect them, but to come together and continue to grow closer to God no matter where we are in our marital relationship. How can I encourage you in your marriage today?
I'm Rebecca, a Christian, wife, and mother of three. I lived wrong for a long time, got pretty well slapped with the reality of how sanctifying marriage and motherhood are, and now I am hoping to help others to hold on to Jesus in all the hard parts of life.