Moms sin too. We don’t want that to be true, but it is.
When things are tough in a marriage we often want to use it as an excuse to let all areas of life be bitter. I know when my husband has been unkind to me I tend to be less patient and less kind to those around me. Unfortunately, my kids see the worst of this as they are with me all the time.
Sin is an ugly thing, isn’t it? Our own sin is especially hard to swallow, and even more so when it is against our kids. How often do we hear that they are blessings and we have been specifically chosen by God to raise them? I know I regularly hear that I have all the talents and skills my children need in a mother; but, I know the truth is God has all the talents and skills. I need to go to Him for each situation to really be equipped to disciple these children I most days feel barely able to keep in one piece!
In moments when you feel like you just cannot be the kind and gentle mother God calls you to be, can I just encourage you to hold that much tighter to God’s Word?
God did not just give you these little blessings and everything you need to raise them in your power, and so you get overwhelmed and frustrated and you sin against them. He gave you these children for you to recognize your need for Him and to be sanctified in the work of motherhood. Overwhelm leads to anger and we become the fool if we do not tightly reign that in quickly.
A fool’s displeasure is known at once, but whoever ignores an insult is sensible.
Proverbs 12:16 HCSB
When anger is quicker than my desire to please God most I sin. I yell, I do not show grace, I tell my children through either my actions or my words that as the adult I can do whatever I want and they have to just do what they are told- it is ugly, it is wrong, and I have to repent first to God and then to them. Consistently repenting of sins against our children and seeking their forgiveness speaks to them on a heart level.
More than anything being open and real in our faith, and especially in our personal struggles with sin, will show our children what a Christian life should look like. God will use your relationship with your children to show you the hidden sins in your heart, but also to help you and your children to learn about grace and to be given opportunity to give and receive it.
I pray that mom’s everywhere would embrace the fact that motherhood is sanctifying work and was never meant to be easy on our own. Trust that God is using every interaction to give you the opportunity to show His grace and to grow in your relationship with Him more. God bless you and your children.
I'm Rebecca, a Christian, wife, and mother of three. I lived wrong for a long time, got pretty well slapped with the reality of how sanctifying marriage and motherhood are, and now I am hoping to help others to hold on to Jesus in all the hard parts of life.